GO GIRL

these are the lovely colours that are in for this season. arnt these pretty? after 26 years of being a woman, i think i have finally come home. in the past few months, i have bought make up, started using nail polish and gone for beauty treatments. it sounds strange even when i say it to myself. i have always been the kind of woman who would just glance once at a mirror before leaving the house and wouldnt pay much attention. its much different now. after years and years of simplicity, i have started enjoying being a woman and doing these feminine things!

truly blissful

AT WORK TODAY

colleague 1: hey, listen i saw your husband yesterday when he came to pick up your kids and i understand..

colleague2: huh?

colleague1: listen, i totally understand you. you dont have to be embarrassed!

colleague2: but i seriously, dont understand what youre saying.

colleague 1: honey, after looking at him, i know .... i am not going to say anything but i know and i feel you..

colleague 2: ??????????....????????????????

can you read this? isnt this typography cool? one of those mind tricks.

ps: squint your eyes and you'll be able to read!

old old old

The recent change in weather has taken a toll on my mood and I find myself in a good mood these days. The wind is chilly where I work and just a thin sweater is not enough to keep oneself warm, so I am thinking of getting in the mood to really dress up for it, coats and scarf’s here I come.

Anyway, nostalgia or simply a change of atmosphere, I have been thinking of my nani and watching all her favourite plays. Ashfaq ahmed was her beloved author and I have been watching his dramas recently. From aik mohabbat sau afsanay to his long plays, wrapped warmly in my comforter, headset in my ears and a chocolate or coke as company, I am mesmerized for hours.

For a few hours, I am transformed into a world that seems almost unreal today. A world that tells you the real meaning of love. Love that is neither selfish nor overbearing, or demanding. It is love. Plain, old simple love that you have for another person. It does not suffocate, hallucinate or deviate. It is there as a reminder for you to live each day with what you have.

As a child, my nani used to make me watch all these dramas with her. Stupid or rather naive that I was in 7^th or 8^th grade, I used to watch with confused eyes. Perplexed emotions and an indifferent attitude was all I used to feel back then. Later, my nani used to explain these things to me. She tried to tell me about life in her own way and through ashfaq ahmed’s words. She tried to warn me about bad men, failed marriages and ungrateful children. She herself led an extremely happy and successful marriage for a short time only, but it was worth it she said.

‘ I loved my husband’, she used to say.

‘but he died and so young!’

‘so what, the years that I lived with him were one of the best ones of my life. my husband was my friend, my confidant and of course, he spoilt me like crazy but all those years were worth it’.

Sometimes, when I am watching these plays, I can almost feel her presence. I feel like she’s somewhere nearby and it’s the most comforting thing in the world.

8 things i hate about matchmakers

1. Silly, inappropriate matches. Since you went to the same kindergarten and both love the colour purple, it is obvious that you two should get married.

2. They are everywhere. Whether you are shopping at Agha’s supermarket, getting your hair cut or doing yoga, aunty shireen will always spot you.

3. It’s a flourishing business. Thousands of rupees will be charged before the wedding (if any) and a heftier amount after.

4. Outrageous lies. They will always tell you that the guy is from the moon and has no flaws while the girl is a local ashwarya rai.

5. From the day you reached puberty till the day you are hitched, aunty qudsia and sanober will have memorized your age, height and cv.

6. Internships are available. Some of them have offices and staff as large as your kitchen crew.

7. The excitement. Baji Noor will rush to your house at the prospect of a single man or woman and assure you that their match will be found in no time.

8. It is easier for them to find a man than for you to find a blood donor!

“You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That’s the only thing you should be trying to control.” eat pray love